I call this photo “A Sunset Kiss”
I don’t quite know how to express this, so please feel beyond the words into the heart of the message.
It is perfectly okay to be alone.
If you are alone, it is not as a punishment from Source, nor as a discipline for something you might have done in your past, nor is it a permanent state of being.
Yes, we are energetically supported, but I fully understand that one’s reality might be that one does not feel or see that energetic support in physical form. And, that is okay.
You are safe and loved and appreciated and when it resonates for you, alone will naturally evolve into “not alone”. Until that resonates for you, it is perfectly okay for you to experience the state of being alone.
It is perfectly okay to cry tears of whatever emotion wishes to be released. It is perfectly okay to savor the refreshment and freedom of this state of being. It is perfectly okay to vascillate between tears and celebration.
If you, with awareness and intent, choose to be alone, may World honor your decision and allow you the experience that you wish for.
May you honor the experience of being alone, by allowing it to unfold with grace and ease.
And, if you wish to keep it light and joy-filled, you may stop reading here…and leave your response in the comments.
If you wish to explore a bit more with me, you may keep reading:
In general, World fears “alone” because we think it hurts, so we layer and compromise and avoid and bury. And, if someone is “alone” we sometimes judge and react and lecture, because fear does that.
In general, we hadn’t learned to love being alone, we don’t understand those who choose to be alone, and we certainly can’t fathom celebrating being alone.
In general, we believe alone is not a choice we make, but a state of being that happens to us…kind of like divorce or cancer.
Alone is a perception that carries different emotions and it all seems to be dependent upon external circumstances. One might be surrounded by people and energy and life, yet feel very alone; one might be physically not surrounded by anyone, living in solitude, yet very connected, feeling the current of energy and life pulsating through their being.
I will share this from my personal experience.
You know me now, as a person who practices presence and positive affirmations and love and gratitude. I do the inner work and I feel the abundance in the moment as it is; the fruits of Spirit nourish my being and enliven my heart.
I thrive in the midst of energy from others. I am often surrounded by people, and praise, and I feel overflowing gratitude for the joy and peace that I experience as I continue to connect transparently and create a life based upon flow and trust and heart whispers manifesting to reality.
Yet, in my past, I felt very alone; from childhood on. This led to reactions, instead of creations (which I know now in retrospect, but then I just kept choosing as I did). The catalytic event was that I found myself in an abusive relationship. And, I couldn’t feel Spirit in that, so I would go to the same beach as in my photo above and I would lay on the rocks on the jetty and hope a huge wave would carry me away. When the waves only gently sprayed refreshment and rejuvenation upon me (and didn’t carry me away), I would make the choice to return. I knew what it was like to be beaten in all ways, but I couldn’t fathom being “alone”.
And, when the person I loved and trusted most in the world told me “I cannot watch you wither, so I am withdrawing my support in all ways until you have left this and been alone for one year”, and then he did… I felt the emptiness of being alone. It was myself and the sunset and the ocean, and a lot of being beaten down.
Yet, it was there…with myself and the sunset and the ocean…that I chose to step out of chaos and abuse into the state of being alone, that I found this person of *Joy* that you know and connect with now.
I used to re-arrange my entire life to not be alone…and I don’t mean romantically, I mean in general, in life…alone. Now I re-arrange my entire life so I can be alone. I prefer to be alone than with filler and busyness and compromise (all of which I allowed in abundance in my life previously).
I choose to be surrounded by all that is enriching and enlivening and nourishing, so I wait patiently, sometimes in the state of “alone”, vesting presence to building the sacred container in which all of that may fit.
Alone has evolved into a conscious choice I have become comfortable with. This choice allows me to gently stretch into unfamiliar areas as I explore connectedness to a depth I hadn’t previously known or experienced.
I choose to share this with you, in this space, because we are heading into a season of togetherness–regardless of where in World you live, there are celebrations involving the invitation to engage with others and community…and sometimes one might feel “alone” in all of that. I wish for you to understand and perhaps even appreciate…sometimes “alone” in all of that is a gift, even if it doesn’t feel like a gift when you are experiencing it. And to encourage you to honor this stage of “alone”, and see where that newness might lead you….
I thank you for your presence to this piece, to receiving my heart whispers, and to sharing your own reflections with me either in the comments or by email…each reflection means so much to me; it is with wonder, joy, and gratitude that I connect and create in this Facets space.
If you would like to share: have you ever felt alone in life…and how did the experience unfold?
Much peace and abundant love,
Reminder: Experiment. Explore. Experience.