28 Days of Connection: Dr Alice Chan

Welcome to Day Twenty of this series!

It is a delight to introduce you to Dr Alice Chan.

Here is an excerpt from Alice’s about page:

Alice’s Mission:
To inspire and help others to reconnect with the love within and live from their hearts.

Who I am:
I’m devoted to living from my heart and soul, my true self and inspiring others do the same. Born in Hong Kong, raised in Macau, I left my childhood home to be on my own at age 16 to pursue the dream of a better life by starting college in Hawaii.

Since then, my search for a meaningful life led me to becoming an award-winning professor at Cornell University and a market research and business consultant for more than a decade, while building and managing teams during most of those years.

After several years of self-employment, I’ve recently returned to the corporate world to run the market intelligence function in a global medical devices company.

Following a near-fatal car accident in December 2008, I reconnected to my mission in life, i.e., to help others reconnect with the love within and live from their hearts.

I absolutely love Dr Alice’s energy, message and style of writing! I was drawn to her website a few years ago; when I see her articles come through my in box I open and read them immediately. It seems that each article is written “especially for me”, for whatever my current experience is – with lots of insight that touches my heart and invites me to open ever further.

I have asked Dr Alice to participate in several different Facets projects; she has readily agreed to each request.  I am delighted she is participating in this series!

 love-naturally

Here are Alice’s answers:

1. What is your definition of love?

Love is the absence of fear, as per A Course in Miracles. Everything either stems from love or fear. I don’t always remember this, but whenever I do and choose love, it’s a very powerful state to be in.

2.  What does it feel like when you are connected with love?

All is right and as it should be, no matter what the objective circumstances may be. That’s because my consciousness is not in fear. I’m not worried about protecting myself or being hurt. I can see things and people through the eyes of compassion, understanding and acceptance. And that includes seeing myself that way.

3. In your opinion, why would one choose to close to love? From that closed space, what is one practice or step a person could take to open to love again?

I believe there’s ultimately only one underlying culprit to being closed to love: ego. When we feel attacked or rejected, it’s easy for ego to take charge and do its job, i.e., to protect us from hurt. When in that space, it’s helpful to remember that we can *choose* not to remain in fear and to remember that love is always, always a choice. For example, when someone lashes out at us, instead of defending ourselves or retaliating, we can choose to imagine how afraid or insecure that person must be to be unkind to us.

Someone filled with love and is secure would not feel the need to be unkind. When we can shift our focus like that, we allow love to flow again, so that we can see the offender through the eyes of compassion.

4. How do you choose to cultivate love?

I used to spend a lot of time meditating and journaling every day. Now I don’t have that luxury any more. Instead, I try to be mindful throughout the day to breathe and remember that I have a choice in every situation, such as what I described above in #3. Especially in stressful situations, I would find moments to take deep breaths and stay grounded, reminding myself of who I really am and where I come from—and to act from a place of love, not fear.

5. May you share an experience of receiving unconditional love?

It was when I was unconscious after a car accident, experiencing a near death experience. I was cradled by an unexplainable, perfect love that told me I almost died, but all was in right order and exactly what it was meant to be. I actually felt what it was like to be loved unconditionally. Nothing else about my physical life and what I was or wasn’t doing mattered. What I had or hadn’t mattered. It was the most exquisitely beautiful experience I’ve ever had in my life—before then or since.

6.  What would you like us to know about love?

Love is non-striving. We don’t have to earn it or qualify for it. When we feel like we have to do, it’s because ego is in control, and we fear that we aren’t lovable unless we fulfill certain conditions.

Love doesn’t judge either, and is always accepting. That includes all the moments when we slip into fear and allow ego to be in control. When we recognize that we have disconnected from love and ego has taken over, there is no need to feel guilty. All we need to do is to shift our focus back to love. Love does not ever punish; only ego does.

dralice

Alice Chan, Ph.D., a former award-winning Cornell professor and seasoned business consultant, is an inspirational author, speaker and coach. Profoundly grateful for a second lease in life surviving a near-fatal car accident in December 2008, she awakened to her mission in life, which is to inspire and help you self-empower to live passionately and joyfully in love and grace. She’s the author of REACH Your Dreams: Five Steps to be a Conscious Creator in Your Life. Learn more by visiting www.DrAliceChan.com

Alice has so generously offered this meditation to readers who wish to receive it: http://www.dralicechan.com/reach-treasure-chest-meditation/ (please note: sign-up is required)

Thank you, Alice!

Dear Reader, Alice speaks of an experience of unconditional love during a near death experience. Have you personally had a near death experience or do you know someone who has? (when you share, you inspire)

Thank you for your presence!  

Much peace and abundant love,
Joy

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  1. Alice, I love it that you refer to love as “not-striving”. So true and powerful. Love simply IS and your NDE is the perfect example of it. You were surrounded by perfect love because you were you. You didn’t make any demands, you didn’t have to beg; it welcomed you as you were. I’m going to relish this today.

    I don’t know anyone who’s gone through anything like that. One of my very good friends is a medium, though, so I’m very open to the spirit world. I’ve had a couple of experiences when I felt in touch with that world but nothing like a NDE. May we all BE love, may we radiate its warm acceptance. ?

    • I like this, Maryse *You didn’t make any demands, you didn’t have to beg; it welcomed you as you were.* – a very peaceful and empowering practice that we may apply to any energy we wish to experience, thank you for highlighting that!

      Yes, *may we all BE love, may we radiate its warm acceptance”. Thank you for sharing!

  2. “There are four evidences of divine mercy here below: the favours of God to beings capable of contemplation (those states exist and form part of their experience as creatures); the radiance of these beings and their compassion, which is the divine compassion in them; the beauty of the world. The fourth evidence is the complete absence of mercy here below.-1

    1 – It is precisely by this antithesis, this rending of our souls between the effects of grace within us and the beauty of the world around us, on the one hand, and the implacable necessity which rules the universe on the other, that we discern God as both present to man and as absolutely beyond all human measurement.”

    ——————-

    Thank you Alice for your wonderful deep insights!

    Is there anything that you would like to add or subtract from the above taken from Simone Weil’s
    ‘Gravity and Grace’?

    I asked my friend this evening as I ran on the beach with her if she experienced any supernatural near death experience the time she was hit by a car while riding her bike. This left her in a coma for 8 days. She said all she remembers is that she woke up from a dream…

    I came close to drowning when I was very young. I remember being suspended and completely calm…like being cradled.

    I was at a New Years party during my early 20’s. It was at the home of my best friend. At 12 midnight we were told that his mother who was in her bedroom had just passed away from her long bout with cancer. We all went into the room to view her. Upon leaving the room I felt her pass me by… or perhaps it was something other that passed me by…

    A balloon was insight high in the air at least a mile away. It slowly descended right in the middle of the large gathering at my eldest sister’s graveside funereal…

    I was in a huge 5 day storm on a 38 foot sailboat between Australia and New Caledonia. it was the blackest night and the winds were above 75 miles per hour. The sailboat was beat up and we had a cyclone coming in our direction. I took a moment to go down below and pray. In the midst of this deep praying I felt the presence of either the girlfriend of my shipmate who went down with his previous boat in a huge storm, or perhaps it was not her but something else that was present…

    “Whoever endures a moment of the void either receives the supernatural bread or falls. It is a terrible risk, but one that must be run—even during the instant when hope fails. But we must not throw ourselves into it.”

    ~ Simone Weil
    Gravity and Grace

    Thanks once again and peace be with you…

    • Thank you for sharing these experiences, Rand. It really helps those whom read to feel into “real-life” examples such as the ones you have shared; so that they may look within their own life for similar experiences.

  3. Many thanks, Joy, for inviting me to contribute to your lovely series. Love is who we are, and it’s always a treat to focus on this truth!

    Maryse, thank you very much for your kind words. My NDE was very special, but it doesn’t take nearly crossing over to connect to love. Yes, may we all BE love, indeed, as that’s what we are.

    Love and blessings to you both.

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