Welcome to Day Eight of this series!
It is a delight to introduce you to Jenny Griffin.
Here is an excerpt from Jenny’s about page:
“I AM and have always been empathic, and combined with the hyper-sensitivity which comes of living in a household with abuse, have an amazing capacity for buffering energy in the spaces I visit or inhabit.
Eight years ago, I went to the depths of my fear, pain and darkness, and released a shit-load of grief. My life hasn’t felt the same since.
This resulted in a feeling of re-connectedness – with the world around me and with that wise and wonderful voice within. I grieved lifetimes worth of loss and pain, and experienced a depth of connection so intense I felt I was being reborn.
I understood at last that the voice I hear is my connection to Source, my intuition, and it guides me to the things my soul wants to embrace, if I’m ready to listen. It also guides me in the work I do, helping to lead others to the answers they seek within themselves.”
Jenny and I met in an online forum – we are in quite a few together, so I am not quite sure which one. We have a lot in common – from our childhood experiences, to our energy and our ultimate purpose in life. Jenny is living the way I would love to when my children are grown – she is technically “homeless” – a professional house sitter traveling frequently while working primarily online.
I love Jenny’s energy, spirit, open heart, and intelligence. We connect often and it seems that we mirror each other in life experience and inner work. So, it feels like either one of us can say “This is what is in my life, what I’m doing and where I’m going” and the other will either have had the same experience previously or be experiencing similar energy now.
Because I enjoy and respect Jenny’s wisdom and the way she presents information that could feel quite vulnerable, I have asked Jenny to collaborate on quite a few Facets projects and classes. Her recent ebook “21 Days of Letting Go” is available as a complimentary download; I highly recommend it. Jenny has also read cards for me and I have received a very accurate “what’s blocking your money juju reading“.
Here are Jenny’s answers:
1. What is your definition of love?
My definition of Love is connectedness, acceptance, and acknowledgement of our own divinity. It’s a kind of ancient knowledge we all return to within ourselves, not something we strive for or move towards outside of us. It encompasses feelings of belonging, value and recognition, although it is none of those things alone. It’s a feeling, an action, and a natural state of being, all at once.
2. What does it feel like when you are connected with love?
It feels like eternity and it feels like home. I feel a warmth that starts in my belly and moves up through my heart, over my shoulders and head, and then connects, somewhere infinite. It feels comforting, beautiful, and can be frightening in its intensity, all at the same time. It feels like I can conquer the darkness and feel the truth of the Universe in my heart. It feels like I am enough – that I can be, who and how I am – without any striving for change or improvement. Whether you’re in your power or in your most vulnerable state, love passes no judgements, it just keeps on doing what it does.
3. In your opinion, why would one choose to close to love? From that closed space, what is one practice or step a person could take to open to love again?
I don’t know that it’s possible to close to love; more that we close to experiences that reflect love, or that we take to represent love. Love itself isn’t something that ever disappears, it just gets strange distortions piled on top of it that lead us to believe it lies elsewhere than within us. We may close to the experience of pain that we associate with love, or the representation of love in relationship. I think it stems from a belief that we can ‘capture’ love from without, never stopping to look underneath the distortions to see where it’s buried.
We are Source energy, which means we can’t ever disconnect from Divine Love, but in the 3-D, we are often given challenges which are designed to separate us from that knowledge to see if we can find our way back. All of these lead to the distortions I mentioned earlier – if you are raised in a household with abuse, for instance, you may believe love is hurtful and cruel. Perhaps you then seek that out in further relationships, or you close down to the idea of relationships altogether, believing you will find the truth of that distortion. If instead, you opened up to challenge the distortions and find the truth (whatever that means for you), you would at some point find a thread connecting you to the Divine Love that connects us all.
I find looking at things from the perspective of compassion is a way to open up to Love. If you can’t find it for yourself, put it outside of yourself, and find it for something. Think of a tiny animal or a baby, and ask yourself what that being needs more than anything in the world. Would you be able to turn your back on this tiny being who needed your attention to survive and thrive? Picture yourself as this tiny being and give yourself the same attention. You are every bit as deserving of this Love as a harmless, innocent creature. You may have just forgotten it somewhere along the way.
4. How do you choose to cultivate love?
I try to express myself in a way that is aligned with love whenever possible, remembering that I haven’t always been that way. I’ve been a jerk in the past; I’ve made mistakes that used to make me cringe to think about; but it doesn’t serve anyone if I continue to beat myself up about that.
It’s really about making different choices now. Instead of reacting in the way I might have in the past, I step back and see what’s being reflected to me and how I might respond more lovingly. It’s not always easy – we all have our trigger points, and sometimes we’re just having a crappy day or feeling extra sensitive. But that’s also part of the journey – accepting our humanity, our vulnerability, and remembering it’s a big part of what connects us. If we can show up with all our ‘imperfections,’ it opens up space for others to feel safe doing so.
5. May you share an experience of receiving unconditional love?
I always turn to my cat for that. I had an amazing cat (Master Spirit) for fifteen years who was such a beautiful reflection of unconditional love for me. They were fifteen of my toughest years, when I really hated myself, and behaved in ways that reflected that. I would come home to him, though, and he’d just jump on my chest and purr, and show me that love doesn’t require you to do anything other than show up. He taught me how to love, really, by just being himself. His presence in my life was one of the most beautiful gifts I’ve ever been given.
6. What would you like us to know about love?
There is nothing you could ever do that would disconnect you from the Divine Love of Source. There are no ‘mistakes’ that would ever allow for that love to be withdrawn from you or for you to lose favour. Nothing. Love doesn’t care where you live or what you do in your spare time, all it wants is to have a little room to grow in your life, and spread itself around as far as it can.
Hi, I’m Jenny! I call myself The Catharsis Coach because it’s easier to remember than ‘intuitive mentor/holder-of-space with a special passion for post-transformation rebuilding.’
What I’m really good at is uncovering the blocks you’ve hidden from yourself, and helping you to find new perspectives and solutions. I love to help others discover possibility and potential where they hadn’t thought to look.
My mission is to normalise the process of change, a huge part of which is letting go. Without change, we individually stagnate, and as a collective, we won’t progress.
My purpose is to transmute heavier energies such as fear and sadness into joy, so that we can all shift together into higher dimensions of consciousness.
I’d love to connect with you further – here are a few ways to make that happen:
Drop in on my blog: http://thepowerofchange.me
Say hi on Twitter: https://twitter.com/catharsiscoach
or join the fun on Facebook: https://facebook.com/thepowerofchange.me
21 Days of Letting Go:
‘In making that choice to let go, you take a leap into potential futures not yet imagined, and feel shaky because the familiarity of what was, is no longer. Even if things haven’t felt exactly good, the familiarity of them has made it feel safe to be where you are.
Yet something in you wants to make changes, and the more you resist, the harder it gets.
And there are always gifts that come with the act of letting go. Sometimes they aren’t revealed until much later; sometimes they’re hidden so deep that you have to wade through some serious crap to get to them; sometimes they’re unrecognisable as gifts when you first find them.
They are, however, always there, and they come in so many forms.’
Thank you, Jenny!
Dear Reader, Jenny speaks about showing up with all of our ‘imperfections’. May you share an experience from your life, when you chose to show up, exactly as you were, feeling “imperfect” but choosing to show up anyway? (when you share, you inspire)
Thank you for your presence!
Much peace and abundant love,
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