Welcome to Day Two of 28 Days of Connection: Love Celebration!
It is a delight to introduce you to Kylie Bellard.
As Kylie shares in this excerpt from her about page:
“I don’t have a religion. But the thing I believe in most is kindness.
That might sound cheesy, but it’s true.
I’m Kylie Bellard, and I’m an empowerment coach and photographer.
I teach sensitive, smart folks how to love themselves and care for themselves really, really well.
That’s the coaching part of what I do. It has a lot to do with being kind to yourself and allowing the world to benefit from that kindness.
I also capture people’s souls on (digital) film as a portrait photographer. My favorite thing is working with somebody who’s super-shy, totally convinced that they hate having their photo taken, and then helping them get so comfy and happy that they end up with photos that show them the best bits of who they are.”
Kylie teaches what I really need to learn in a way I can best receive, understand and integrate. I absolutely *love* Kylie’s message and style of writing! I participated in one of Kylie’s classes a few months back – the materials were overflowing with insights and tools; she was very present in the forum, it was an *amazing* experience. I am also registered for Kylie’s free Unencumbered class beginning February 3 (join in if you’d like!).
Here is the ‘thing’. I don’t like Superbowl Sunday (I wrote about why here: 28 Days of Love: Grace). I still have a bit of inner work to do around the idea of being comfortable and feeling safe in my body. So, I find it extraordinary that, without planning the timing, Kylie’s message coincides with the energy of “the day I wished away”. How is that for Universal Magic?!
Here are Kylie’s answers:
1. What is your definition of love?
Wow, what a question! To me, love is a deep feeling of adoration that may or may not be directed at a particular person or thing. It’s expansive, steady, powerful, and fluid. It’s an infinite source of wellbeing.
2. What does it feel like when you are connected with love?
It feels like lightness and sweetness in your chest. You might experience a sense of oneness with your world. You’re grounded and steady, and able to act and make choices from the wisest part of yourself.
3. In your opinion, why would one choose to close to love? From that closed space, what is one practice or step a person could take to open to love again?
I think the biggest reason that we choose to close to love is to protect ourselves. We’re afraid that feeling love for ourselves or others will result in pain, so we decide to opt out of that pain by closing off. The problem is that this decision also cuts us off from joy and connection, without which life just isn’t, well, lively.
One powerful step we can take toward opening to love is allowing ourselves to be slightly vulnerable or loving with a kind person, someone whom we can trust. We can achieve that vulnerability very simply: by sharing with that person something as simple as, “I’m feeling sad right now. Can I have a hug?” Or by saying, “You make me smile.”
Doing those things cracks open the door by taking an emotional chance. But as long as you choose to do this with a person who’s kind and loving, you’ll get a major infusion of warm fuzzies from whatever happens next.
4. How do you choose to cultivate love?
I cultivate love on a daily basis by loving myself and caring for myself as best I can, by being a support to the people I love most, and by teaching others how to love themselves and care for themselves. I’m totally imperfect in all of this, but I do my best. And that, in itself, is a loving way to look at things.
5. May you share an experience of receiving unconditional love?
I remember as a kid, I was always very sensitive (still am!). I was also very “good”: I never broke the rules or misbehaved. I remember dropping a drinking glass on the floor when I was in elementary school. It shattered, and I started crying because I was afraid that my mom would be upset. When she came in and saw what had happened, she wasn’t angry at all. She knew I didn’t mean to do it, and she gave me a hug and assured me that mistakes happen, and it’s okay. And then she helped me clean it up.
I’ve had countless experiences of receiving unconditional love since then, of course. But this one really sticks with me because it was such a simple instance of receiving love, even when I’d done something wrong.
6. What would you like us to know about love?
Love is a powerful resource to call upon when you’re having a hard time. If you can connect with a sense of love when you’re scared, nervous, or sad, you’ll be able to gather some extra strength to make it through the darkness.
You can do this by tapping into your inner reserves of love, by connecting with another person, or even by reading a blog post that makes your heart feel full. There are countless ways to call upon it, and it’s always there for you, no matter what.
Kylie Bellard is an empowerment coach and photographer who teaches people how to love themselves and care for themselves so they can live the lives they’re destined for. She’s currently leading Unencumbered: Fly Free, a free, week-long course where you’ll learn how to free yourself from self-loathing. You can sign up to join the journey right here.
Thank you, Kylie!
I love that Kylie presented a new point of view for me about “how does it feel when you are connected with love?” Kylie: “You’re grounded and steady, and able to act and make choices from the wisest part of yourself.” I am learning to be grounded and steady when connected with love – but it hadn’t yet been the norm for me!
I also love the experience of unconditional love that Kylie chose to share – an experience in which she “received love, even when she’d done something wrong.”
Dear reader, may you share an experience from your life of an instance in which you received love, even when you had done something wrong? And, as you read Kylie’s words and feel into her message, what arises within for you? (when you share, you inspire)
Thank you for your presence!
Much peace and abundant love,
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