28 Days of Connection: Romy Maillard

Welcome to Bonus Day Five of 28 Days of Connection! (our last day of this series)

It is a delight to introduce you to Romy.

Here is an excerpt from Romy’s about page:

    • For decades I have cultivated beauty and magick in my life, it’s the natural way for me to be.
    • Among others, Tarot cards, Goddesses, Angels and Crystals are beloved friends.
    • I have this deep need to beautify my space and keep rearranging and redecorating my home and workspace to suit and support my evolution and dreams.
    • I believe that beauty is mandatory for a sensitive soul. For years I struggled with my sensitivity, believing there was something badly wrong with me until I realized, that my sensitivity is my greatest asset. I have made it my lives mission to pass this knowledge on to other Super Sensitive Souls. It lights me up to see women blossoming into their serene, divine, feminine essence of beauty and magick, enriching their lives with ancient wisdom adapted for modern times.
    • Capturing everyday beauty with my camera is another great passion of mine and a great learning field. Yes, I’m still in primary school here.
    • And I couldn’t imagine life without my beloved journals and candles.
    • I love to roam the forests near my home and spend time at the lake and river with my beautiful dog lady, Féline; throw a dinner party for friends; sip a glass of champagne with a girlfriend while shopping; create things; visit new places; participate in retreats; cuddle up in front of the fire with a good book; daydream and moon gaze.

I connected with Romy through the Authentic Connecting Facebook forum. I enjoy her energy and message and asked her to participate in my recent Home series. The article she submitted was so resonant that I asked her to participate in this series as well. (Romy’s ‘home article’ will be published this month).

It is a delight to share Romy’s energy here.

forgiveness

In essence, forgiveness is choosing peace.

with the application of love and gratitude,

regardless of external.

Here are Romy’s answers:

1. What is your definition of love?

Love is a pure quality, an essence of life. It is a powerful force that keeps us alive, sparks inspiration, passion, acts of humanity, compassion and kindness, builds communities and homes, the courage to protect our beloved, to change the status quo, to evolve.

2. What does it feel like when you are connected with love?

There‘s a feeling of lightheartedness, of deep contentment, tenderness and a genuine desire to deeply listen and participate and contribute and honor and celebrate. Gratitude comes naturally, and the world around me explodes with beauty and magic.

3. In your opinion, why would one choose to close to love? From that closed space, what is one practice or step a person could take to open to love again?

We can‘t love without exposing ourselves which makes us vulnerable and at some point in our lives we get hurt. Depending on the extent of that hurt we withdraw, build walls, don‘t venture out again without our shield up and our sword ready to kill. While we might prevent another hurt we sadly also cut ourselves off from all the good as we start to harden and grow numb and immune to our emotions and feelings and the feelings of another. We are starving.

What helped me tremendously on my own healing journey was the act of self forgiveness. Even though it does not make any logical sense most of the time, we tend to place the fault on our list if something went wrong, and we carried away a wound. We think we should have known better, should have been more careful, maybe not opened up so quickly. But the truth is, things happen, life happens, people are hurtful, often unintentionally – which doesn‘t lessen the hurt inflicted or make it right – relationships expire. We need to remember that this is all part of life, that it is not a personal thing. We did not do anything wrong. We are not flawed.

So, cultivating a practice of self forgiveness for sometimes keeping the pain alive by attaching our self worth to it and feeding it these re-occurring self destructive thoughts would be a great habit to take up. And yes, maybe we did make an unwise move or a mistake, so what; it happens and it probably will again. We are human. I experienced that forgiving myself and finding my way back to kindness towards myself over time softens the hurt, drains the poison out of the wound so it can heal. Yes, I will bear a scar but it doesn‘t need to pain me anymore and with time I can shift my perspective and move on.

4. How do you choose to cultivate love?

Consciously connecting to the beauty around me brings me back to love. When I notice the delicate miracle of a flower or the lacy pattern of a leaf or the way the waves ripple across the lake, I open up to the love frequency.

Opening up to beauty is my portal to love. It softens my heart and allows for more uplifting and gentler thoughts towards others and, most of all, towards myself.

5. May you share an experience of receiving unconditional love?

I am blessed to be showered with unconditional love by my beautiful dog lady. She is such a wonderful role model and a great teacher. I have learned so much from her.

A memory that is especially tender in my heart is of her comforting a client. At that time I was offering VIP days in my home and Feline, my dog, was with us. My client was doing some deep work and processing some grief. Feline got up, walked over to her and just gently laid her head on her thigh, looking at her with huge brown eyes filled with kindness. Now you need to know that my dog is not a very social dog, and very reserved towards people she does not know. So this was truly a special moment.

6. What would you like us to know about love?

We need to stop looking for THE love and putting it up on a pedestal. This only puts us in the looser position, making love something we can never quite live up to. I find we pressure ourselves so much with expectations of how love has to look and feel, when in truth love comes in many many different forms and has even more facets. Sometimes it is bright and sparkly and obvious and sometimes it is barley visible, quiet, and maybe even a bit clouded.

Love is a quality, an essence of life, and we get to cultivate and grow it just like we tend to a garden. We need to keep this plant alive by pulling out the weeds, fertilizing the soil it is planted in, watering it with care, making sure it has the right amount of sunlight so it can unfold and grow into what it can be. This depends on whether we planted a rose or a carrot. Each are beautiful and lovable in their own right, but the way we express that love will be different. It might be easier to love a rose than a carrot. But I can learn to cultivate love for my carrot by becoming aware of its inherent beauty and all the wonderful things it has to offer to me, things a rose will never give me.

It‘s the same with loving another human being. There are more than 50 shades of love. Depending on where our relationship is at, how we care for it and how important it is in our life love will have a different shade and intensity. This is said without judgement, because I believe every relationship has its own unique potential for love and it‘s up to us whether this can be lived and expressed, or not. This includes the most important relationship of all, the one to ourselves. And I believe this is the best place to start if we want to enhance our relationships. If I can‘t see the beauty in myself it will be so much harder to access the essence of love because, from my understanding, they go hand in hand. If I can‘t find that in myself I won‘t be able to see and honor it in another.

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Romy Maillard is the founder and publisher of the digital magazine and blog Diva Mystic Magazine – Soulfood for Super Sensitive Souls, dedicated to bringing the best information, inspiration, tools and resources about living life the Sensitives‘ Way to other Sensitives. An empath herself she has come to realize that her sensitivity, if cultivated in a way that serves her instead of draining her, is her biggest asset.

Her bi-monthly digital magazine, a collaboration of love with other Sensitives covering in depth different aspects of a Sensitives lifestyle, is a treasure trove of goodness overflowing with inspiration, ideas, insights, knowledge and wisdom, prompts and lots of practical tools and how-to’s. All in the intention of inspiring you to connect more deeply to your home and sacred space to create and cultivate spaces of beauty and serenity and hopefully gaining a deeper understanding of why and how your home can serve you best. A sweet preview of the new issue “Homeing – the Art of Making a House a Home“ is available now at:
www.DivaMysticMagazine.com

Thank you, Romy!

Dear Reader, Romy shares that one way she cultivate love is by *Consciously connecting to the beauty around her*. In what ways do you connect to the beauty around you? (when you share, you inspire)

Thank you for your presence! 

(Please Note: This is the last article in the 28 Days of Connection series.

Much peace and abundant love,
Joy

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  1. Dear Joy, thank you so much for inviting me into your beautiful virtual home! It’s been a pleasure answering your questions. I hope they serve your readers well. Now off to share your post:) Oh, and I just joined you in your magical moments, so lovely.

  2. Jean Sampson said:

    Hi Joy and Romy, thanks for this beautiful post. All of my life I have dealt with being sensitive and trying to keep myself together, not feeling every little thing. When I was small, it was very painful and I felt so different from other people, but now, I am so grateful for my sensitivity (except for the physical sensitivities which plague me, make life so much harder :) ) I think the sensitivity makes me able to be with people who are having a hard time and it has also given me poetry and art, and for those gifts, I am REALLY grateful!
    Thanks for having Romy visit, Joy!

    • Lovely to connect with you here, Jean. I’m delighted my words resonated with you. Being a Sensitive can be really hard and challenging, especially as a child. And if you didn’t have parents that were aware of your sensitivity and capable of teaching you to handle that, then it’s only natural that you shut down in an attempt to avoid the intense feelings. Alas, that habit makes everything much worse because it’s the other way around: We need to learn to process fully all we feel in a healthy way and learn to differentiate between what is mine and what comes from outside, and that is usually plenty. The key here is to let those feelings flow right through you otherwise they will get stuck inside of you and that’s where the damage happens.

      I truly believe that our sensitivity is our greatest asset and having poetry and art as a way to express that is a wonderful gift.

    • Thank you for sharing, Jean! I was not aware that you are sensitive – poetic and artistic, yes! May you share a bit of how you have channeled this energy into your creative expressions? I find that so interesting!

  3. I am *Happy*!

    I passed my IATSE Journeyman’s test yesterday!

    Yes, Romy there are many different ways *Love* can fill our lives.

    One way for me is to be able to use my ‘hands’ and technical skills as a professional stagehand amongst my peers and those we provide for, whether actors, musicians, audience, or corporate clients.

    I came of an instant, and by the angle of a butcher knife’s angle of losing this because of putting *Love* on a ‘pedestal’. Two summers ago on the longest day of the year…a day I was filling up with *Happy* flow from one event to the next…to the next…to the next…until…late evening…the thought of the humiliation from ‘One’ person who I put on a pedestal gave to ‘my inner being’ a week earlier. In that instant I severed two tendons and nerves in one finger, and one tendon and nerves in another finger. There will always be stiffness, scars, numbness, and some soreness at times. After 6 months of occupational therapy and two and one half years later I am now a Journeyman and still able to help send my two daughters who I love through college…and do the work that I love…

    So I am *Happy*!

    And I am sending some *Happiness*:

    http://youtu.be/i0A3-wc0rpw

    *This video if you have not already seen it is filled with some super dancing and I love the song!

    Thank you Romy and Joy!

    • Congratulations on your wonderful achievement, Rand!
      I agree, our hands are one of the most powerful tools we have to spread love and happiness. They are directly related to our heart chakra, so no wonder they are so magical.
      Thank you for sharing your story and your happy, Rand. Having a husband who has lost one finger and a great amount of his strength in one hand I can relate a little bit to what you must have gone through. I am glad you could turn it around and find a new way for yourself to do what you love and take care of your girls. Reading your words “I am happy” puts a smile on my face and in my heart.

    • Congratulations, Rand! How shall you celebrate?

      Until today, I was one of the few people on Earth who did not care for the “happy song”. My children laughed because I disliked it so much. Then, this morning I received an answer I have been waiting for (not the one I “wanted” but still provided closure) and I felt so freakin’ happy, I put the song on. My children laughed some more!

  4. Jean Sampson said:

    Well, Joy, I don’t know if I am “a” sensitive, but I tear up over little children and babies and old people :) and people being loving to each other. I have always been aware of how other people feel and have tried to “protect” them from feeling pain, especially emotional pain. I have always personified everything, trees, rocks, stuffed animals. I have always just assumed that everything in the world has feelings and I don’t want any of those things to feel bad. So, I think that this shows up in my poems more than in the paintings because I can speak as a tree or a hawk (sort of like shape shifting) and feel the feelings of everything I write about. I think that it shows up as intense love for the physical (natural) world in my poems. For example, in one poem that I wrote to my beautiful sycamore tree that got killed in a hurricane, I continue to grieve for it, for the way it made the sky into puzzle with a million pieces in winter and the long cool shadows it cast over the yard every spring and summer. I wrote that, even though it was not physically present, its energetic presence would always live in the yard and in my heart. So, I think the poems are where the sensitivity to live really shows up. I guess it takes a certain sensitivity to color to paint the way I do, and teaching requires a lot of sensitivity to people’s feelings. Sorry for the long answer, Joy :)

    • Please don’t apologize for sharing, Jean – I love the energy within your response and the insights you are gifting us (all whom read your comment) with! Thank you! Each line speaks straight to my heart as an invitation to open to fully feel *everything*. In this part of my journey, I am learning to embody energy – to bring all of that inward and to be a conduit of enriching / enlivening energy. Your words explaining your life experience are a wonderful affirmation! Thank you!

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