Asking for Help in a Time of Need

How do you feel about asking for physical help? 

There are numerous quotes around the idea of ‘ask and you shall receive’ and just as many judgments and conditioning about the idea of asking being a sign of weakness.

There are many people walking a heart-path who find it easy to ask for prayer and energy, yet difficult to ask for something in physical world.

How are you about receiving physical help?

Even if you have the courage to clearly ask for you what need, in order for the help to shift energy/make a difference, it is essential to open to receive the help as it is being placed.

Opening to receive can feel incredibly vulnerable. Many of us tend to be generous givers yet find receiving challenging (even sometimes deflecting the very thing we asked for!).

I found myself in a space of needing to ask for help in physical world.

I could see no other option. My stomach churned and my body reacted with fear while my heart whispered ‘yes, please’. I don’t believe in “should’s” but: I should have asked for help in Fall; however, I truly felt I could shift my energy and plow through it on my own. (I couldn’t. I exhausted myself and my resources by trying!)

When I am considering something challenging, I ask Universe for external affirmation of my internal nudges.

So, this morning, I asked for a sign.

I read three things right in a row – two articles and one photo affirmation. I have included the photo affirmation and the excerpts from the articles here (my notes are in violet):

This excerpt from Seth Godin’s The Right Moment

The thing is, people who make a difference never wait for just the right time. They know that it will never arrive.

Instead, they make their ruckus when they are short of sleep, out of money, hungry, in the middle of a domestic mess and during a blizzard. Whenever.

As long as whenever is now. 

(Note from Joy: Oh, yes – I am short of sleep, out of money, in the middle of a mess!)

This excerpt from Chris Brogan‘s newsletter this morning:

I had a very interesting conversation with the universe about you yesterday. It went something like this: 

Me: You know, I think Joy is pretty cool.
Universe: Oh, I do, too! I really want good things to come soon.
Me: Well, what does that take?
Universe: Work. And no more feeling sorry. And no more feeling inadequate. And a lot more of feeling like the obstacle is only temporary.
Me: Oh. Sounds hard.
Universe: You think any of this is easy?
Me: Good point. Will you pay for our meal?
Universe: Uh, I left my wallet in my other galaxy.
Me: Un-huh. 

(Note from Joy: The violet sentence is the one that spoke straight to my heart!)

And this photo affirmation from JoAnna Rothman’s Daily Gift:


 (Note from Joy: audacity – got it!)

Right after reading JoAnna’s photo affirmation, I wrote a Go Fund Me campaign and shared it on my social media outlets. 

Here is an excerpt:

I am at a point where I need to ask for help. The kids and I are covered in prayer and energy (lots of people worldwide love us) and we are thankful for that, but we also are in dire need of money to keep us together in this living space and to repair the car. What currently feels heavy and “impossible” to me is do-able only if I open to ask and receive. So, I am. Thank you.

Anything helps! Thank you for your generosity. Every donation makes a difference.

To read the entire campaign and to donate, please click here: Asking for Help in a Time of Need. If it resonates for you to share the link in your social media outlets, we appreciate the support.

If you would like to donate directly via paypal (which has less withdrawal fees and is available immediately) my paypal email is

What I would like you to ‘takeaway’ from this article is to be courageous enough to ask for help when you need it and to open to receive it as it is placed. You are deserving of support – energetic, physical and emotional. Please don’t judge yourself for asking. Please give people the option to choose to share and to support you, by asking for what you truly need.

After watching Amanda Palmer’s TED Talk last March, I wrote in an article “The Art of Asking“: It is my intention to learn to ask clearly, to receive graciously, and to practice trust so deep that I “ask my crowd to catch me”.

Here I am now, one year later, ready and open to experience this. Thank you!

Here is Amanda Palmer’s TED Talk: The Art of Asking (if you are unable to view the video in this space, please click the title link).

Dear Reader: How do you feel about asking? Is it something comfortable and familiar for you? Does it depend on whether you think ‘the ask’ is “big” or “small”? (when you share, you inspire)

Thank you for your presence!

Much peace and abundant love,


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Comments on: "Asking for Help in a Time of Need" (4)

  1. Jean Sampson said:

    Joy, I am with you 100 percent on asking for what you need. I realize you will have to break up some really old patterns, but what a lifetime change! It is hard for me to ask, also, but, for different reasons than yours. I was taught to always reciprocate so receiving is never with out the obligation to repay in some way. I think a lot of us are cheering you on, and will be following your example in our own ways! You GO, girl! <3 <3

    • Thank you, Jean for your presence, support and affirmation! That means a lot to me!

      I feel like I am releasing/shifting an entire mountain range of conditioning/patterns – but wow, how freeing it can be.

      I know many people who read your words can identify with this * I was taught to always reciprocate so receiving is never with out the obligation to repay in some way.* Whew…that is a big one, too! I was also taught to reciprocate and as we are receiving money in, my mind says “but I didn’t earn it – service per dollar” and my heart says “oh, money is a form of energy and you certainly share a lot of energy with world”. The bottom line is a heart-felt ‘thank you along with a blessing and/or prayer’ amplifies energy and is wonderful reciprocation!

      And, I do believe that we receive back into our life the intentional energy we have shared, so when we allow someone to gift us, they will receive that back into their life in a way they can “best use”, when they need it.

      Thank you for your cheerleading, I need it!!! This asking is the one of the hardest things I have ever done and only because it directly affects my children, did I find the courage (that has been the reason I have changed lots about my life- I wanted my children to have an experience of unconditional love, peace and possibility). Lots of learning happening! Love to you!

  2. Jean Sampson said:

    Joy, I KNOW how hard this is for you, and I AM cheerleading! :) :) I celebrate each dollar you receive as one more chink in that old pattern! And you are so right about your sharing energy! I have received so much from you in the past several years that you can’t even imagine! Not to mention the wonderful people I met solely (souly?) through you! Lots of love to you and the children! <3

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