Let’s explore the energy of worry together.
First, a bit of my ‘worry background’: I was raised in a home full of worriers. I even heard “I worry because I love you”.
I didn’t understand the energy of worry (as in why someone would worry) because, from a young age, I had strong faith including a trust in Source energy, natural cycles and flow. (I didn’t have the language to describe it as such but I had the feeling and that allowed me to access peace, even in chaos).
I greatly disliked the feel of worry being put upon me << note to parents who say this to their children, it is a great source of disconnection.
My response to external worry was to center deeper and keep on creating and connecting. If I had worried, I would have become stuck, and that would have been painful, so I had lots of practice choosing to center and move through spaces others might have become stagnant in. As a result, I have always been called ‘the calm’ in the storm.
My focus is always on how to feel peace and move through something as safely as possible while manifesting the best possible, ‘most resonant with heart whispers’ outcome.
However, later in life, I took that familial patterning and manifested romantic partners who used their inherent worry as justification for abuse. It took many years for me to understand a person’s worry is their choice and it’s not for me to carry, nor to be disciplined for (and I also learned first-hand the importance of boundaries so external worry can’t touch my inner essence energy).
Is Worry an Expression of Love?
It’s a perfect time to note that worry is fear-based and love is love-based. Worry is an expression of fear, not love.
Worry is a constrictive energy that causes stress to one’s physical, emotional, spiritual, energetic being, blocks flow, creates tension and causes disconnect. Love is an expansive energy that supports, encourages and heals.
I invite you to think out these two statements in your mind and notice how they feel and how your body reacts or responds:
I worry about you. (My body and being constrict and I feel like withdrawing because I don’t wish to receive in fear.)
I love you. (My body and being open to receive in the fullness as I lean in, with gratitude, to explore connection.)
Worry as it Relates to Your Body, Being and Quality of Life
Worry is a reaction to external circumstances – usually when you find yourself in a space of uncertainty, feel powerless and/or project that there might be potential future pain involved.
When your mind is occupied with worry, it’s difficult to move with ease because your body is stuck in reactive stress. It’s difficult to experience depth of connection, because you are not able to be fully present. It’s difficult to experience flow of creative expression because your desire and joy is buried under fear. It’s difficult to get restorative rest.
I personally love experiencing the joys of synchronicity, unexpected blessings and perfectly placed opportunities that I wouldn’t notice or be able to open to if I was worrying.
Worry and Concern
Some people look at a situation and say ‘you should worry’ and I say *no, thank you*.
Are there times to be concerned? Sure. Concern invites a person to review external variables, consider options and take inspired action. It’s a far different feeling from worry.
Worry and Judgment
While there are common worries (for example, health, money, family dynamics) your patterning and worry-triggers are unique to you. This makes it close to impossible to look at another person’s experience and compare the way you feel and process worry.
If someone feels trust and moves through an experience with ease while you worry and stress your body and being, that doesn’t make you or your feelings wrong (and theirs ‘right’); it does mean you each process things differently and as a result probably experience life differently.
What adds pain to worry is judging yourself for worrying and/or judging worry for being present. If you tend to worry, and you understand that about yourself, you can work on ways to process worry to limit the effect it has on your health and quality of life.
Understanding Patterning and Triggers
The best time to work on understanding your patterning and worry-triggers is when you are not in a state of worry, when your body feels comfortable and safe and you have time and space to rest in between your exploratory sessions.
This allows your mind to process potentially vulnerable stuff without the extra fear and tension that is attached to worry; meaning that you can focus your attention on expanding your understanding and awareness.
To be clear, shifting from reaction to creation is not at all about burying or ignoring your worry, it’s about getting your body and energy ready to process and move through your worry without causing more internal pain or external chaos.
A Few Steps to Shift Your Worry from Reactive to Creative Mode
Worry is a really big topic. Many practices and techniques to move through worry are completely dependent upon the situation you are in and your unique patterning and triggers.
What I am sharing here are a few, very general, foundational tips from a point of presence – from the moment you notice worry, you can work with it. (So this is not about understanding patterning or making different choices to prevent worry and this is only a few base practices – there are many that build upon them.)
If you recognize that you are in a state of worry, here are a few steps to shift your energy from reaction (tension) into creation (peace):
1. Please do not judge yourself for worrying – or judge worry for being present. We spoke about this above. Judgment adds pain. Simply notice that you are worrying, accept that it is present and understand that you have a choice to continue to feel powerless as you stay in the reaction of worry or to focus on shifting into centered empowerment.
2. Center your energy in a way that is familiar and comfortable to you (you may want to practice centering your energy when you are feeling calm so that your practice feels comfortable when you need to use it). An important reason to center is to stop your physical reaction to worry, because when your body is calm, you can think, create and connect more clearly and effectively. (When your body is not calm, that reaction weaves into worry, making the situation feel more impossible to move through and often creating some sort of physical pain.)
3. Do something to get the worries out of your mind. One popular practice is to free-stream your worries out on paper, then rip it up and throw it away. The idea is to clear your mind space of limiting thoughts so you can concentrate on choices. (Again, you are not judging your worries, you are simply clearing your mind space.)
4. Focus your attention on a faith and/or trust building practice that is familiar and comfortable to you. There are so many practices to choose from. I personally pray, ask the angels in, ask friends to send energy, choose crystals that amplify the energy I want to work with, go outside and look up at the sky (because it reminds me of Source and infinite possibility), read or listen to something inspirational. Focusing on faith and/or trust building practices disengages your mind from fear, restoring peace while shifting your energy into a place of empowerment.
5. Look at the external variables that you have in your space and that are being presented to you. Depending on the situation you are in, it’s a great time to count your blessings / focus on the ‘good’ you have in your life, engaging your mind while enlivening your energy.
6. Think about the one, next step you can take then take it. Focusing on one step adds to your sense of empowerment because it keeps the majority of your energy in that moment (you’re no longer projecting ahead and feeling overwhelmed about the possibly trillion future steps) and the action of doing something naturally dissolves worry, while potentially increasing faith and peace (and possibly opening energetic and physical doors – drawing in infinite possibility).
7. Celebrate that step. Thank your self for noticing, accepting, centering, clearing, connecting and creating. Thank your self with words and, if you wish, a small treat. When you are celebrating your steps as you take them, they feel meaningful and you feel on-purpose, which then builds trust and encouragement to take the next step.
8. Start the process again.
Now, it might seem like the process is linear, but it’s cyclical. Meaning that you might decide not to judge yourself, center, stream out your worries, then notice worry comes back in. Instead of going to the next step, it’s wise to begin again with step one, deciding not to judge, then moving through the steps.
The foundational process I’ve shared here is: notice, accept, center, clear, connect, create, celebrate. You can use this process when working with any energy.
If you’d like to explore this topic further, I do offer personal sessions.
I have also created two free audios on my soundcloud account:
I am facilitating a free Worry-Shift teleclass on April 18th at 4p (pt).
I am facilitating an ecourse Worry-Shift beginning May 1st. This ecourse is available for 6 students per session, because I am offering personal guidance and support.
My questions for you are: Do you worry? What is your personal experience with worry? Do you have a practice for moving through worry? (when you share, you inspire).
Thank you for your presence!
Much peace and abundant love,