Amplifying Possibility by Removing Your Focus From What You Want the New Year to Give You to What You are Willing to Give the New Year

Here we are three-quarters of the way through January, feeling into our experience of this ‘new calendar year’ of 2016.

I think you would agree that the typical ‘worldwide’ focus as we transition into this new year tends to be all about *what this year is going to give us*.

Well, if we are having a relationship with this block of time (and I believe and practice that, yes, indeed, we are) that’s a pretty one-sided view and not very sustainable or healthy to the quality or fullness of this relationship. 

What I mean by ‘having a relationship with this block of time’ – for example, this new year of 2016 – is that our energy and presence weaves into, and with, the energy and presence of this sacred container of a year, which creates the foundation for the feel and flow of this moment.

I don’t hear anyone talking about this, so I thought I’d take the time to share the concept with you and explore it together. If it resonates, there is still plenty of time to play with the concept and weave it into your experience of opening and blessing this new year. (Of course, as with any practice I present, you can apply this concept to any area of life, as well.)

How Focusing Solely Upon What You Are Going to Get Constricts Possibility

If you go into this experience concentrating solely upon what you are going to get and how much you can possibly get, you are actually constricting possibility.

Right? Let’s say 2016 opened the door to you in a similar way that you tend to open the door to the new year, with a greeting that goes something like:

“Hey, nice to see you! What spectacular gifts did you bring me today? What spectacular gifts are you bringing me tomorrow and beyond? How much can I possibly get from you???!!!”

or

“Hey, gosh you hurt me terribly so and I’m not feeling great about seeing you, actually you suck, so I’m going to hide out until you bribe me with enough gifts (and the *right gifts*) to be present again.”

How would that feel?

You’d probably be less than enthusiastic about being present and the quality of your experience might be less than lovely. You might even withdraw your presence or withhold your special gifts because you feel under-appreciated or taken advantage of.

By setting resolutions, goals, intentions, choosing a theme word and/or declaring only what you wish to experience in 2016, you are in a way trying to control your experience of the year. To be clear, none of these things are ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’ – they can each be great tools to direct your attention and focus and open your heart to the fullness available in the moment. But, just reading the words is enough to highlight that it’s a one-sided relationship.

It feels really heavy to me – neither open-or-light-hearted. If that is how I chose to open the year, I’d need to spin some light into, right from the first moment (which takes away from the peace, ease and joy), instead of opening with light and to more light.

(Again, this is to expand our understanding – there is no judgment, so please don’t read that into my words.)

Also when your attention and awareness is only consistently on one specific goal, word or intention you tend to miss any other potential connections, opportunities or energies that could be coursing through quite strongly, full of synchronicity and blessings, just because you have chosen to make your focus so small.

From this perspective, you’re probably not giving your all (in any realm) because you are very focused on *getting* all that you can. You may be feeling exhausted and drained because that’s quite a lot of work with very little ease and joy.

It’s almost akin to a resistance to flow, instead of tapping into it. 

In those moments, it’s like you are saying – with what you are choosing to be present to – show me the abundant blessings and possibility in this small inch of a space, which closes you off to the infinite possibility available in that moment, in all spaces.

If this is a relationship, you would be saying ‘I appreciate this specific one-tenth of you so I am fully present to this *and* I have zero idea nor any interest in what the other nine-tenths even are, let alone a desire to be present to or appreciate them.’

You can see how all of this contributes to limiting possibility. It’s simply a set of thoughts and a choice of presence – so if you notice this dynamic in your life you understand you can change your thought and your quality of presence to change the feel of what you are experiencing.

How Focusing On What You’re Willing to Give, with Love and Gratitude, Amplifies Possibility

If you go into this experience considering what you are bringing into the new year, through your presence and attention, as well as what the new year is bringing to you, you have just created a collaboration.

Within that, you are amplifying possibility and, because it’s now a collaborative creation, you are also amplifying peace, ease and joy (you don’t have to work so hard, because you have the energy of the year to tap into and working *with* you).

What if you opened this block of time by centering, blessing your space, and expressing what you’d like to share within this block of time – how might that change the way you feel in the moment and how you feel about the year as well as what you feel is possible for you in the moment and what is possible in the year?

As you express what you’d like to share, the doors to possibility open as the energy of the entire year meets you right there in your expressions!

Pretty powerful!

So, instead of the above scenario, as the door to the new year opened, you’d be present with a smile on your face and before you were greeted you’d be saying:

‘Lovely to see you, here is what I’ve brought to share’ as you leaned into a warm embrace.

or

“I’m still feeling vulnerable from recent events, but here I am, with a heart full of love and gratitude, ready for some newness and here is what I’ve brought to share’ as you leaned into a warm embrace.

How would that feel?

You’d probably be very enthusiastic about being present and the quality of your experience will probably be quite lovely in all realms (even beyond what you can imagine!).

You might even choose to open your heart wider, center deeper, do what you can to be more fully present because it feels good and that helps you to enjoy the unfolding of the year – regardless of external. You would probably share your gifts generously, joyfully, because you know they are being met with equally awesome energy and great things will flow from there.

You may choose to set a resolution, goals, intention, theme word and/or declare what you wish to experience in 2016, but you keep your awareness open to include delightful surprise, synchronicity and blessings beyond these tools.

It feels really open-and-light-hearted to me. This is how I choose to open the new year, present with light, love and gratitude, (here I am, let’s live possibility together, New Year!) which adds to the light already there (naturally amplifying peace, ease and joy).

From this perspective, you’re likely to ‘give your all’ (in each realm) because your focus is on sharing your talents and gifts, the being of you, in each moment. You may be feeling fulfilled and excited because you’re opening and creating/’doing your work’ with ease and joy and it’s being met with blessings and magic.

Instead of resisting flow, you are very much tapped into it – simply by choosing to collaborate with the year, instead of just ‘take from it’. 

In those moments, it’s like you are saying – with what you are choosing to be present to – show me the abundant blessings and possibility in all of life (not just the space you are in) which amplifies infinite possibility available in that moment, in all spaces.

If this is a relationship, you would be saying ‘I am giving all of myself and am appreciating all of you – it’s an honor and a blessing to collaborate together and I’m excited to experience greater depth and range together.’

You can see how all of this contributes to amplifying possibility. It’s simply a set of thoughts and a choice of presence that affects the quality of your life experience in this year.

Dear Reader: Thank you for exploring this concept with me! I invite you to share what you are open to ‘give’ to this new year (as far as your presence, energy and attention); what are you willing to show up with? (when you share, you inspire)

My answer: I am willing to show up with an open-heart, centered in love and gratitude, fully present to the natural seasons and cycles and to do the work to understand the flow of each as they weave into my daily life and to keep being present, even when I feel vulnerable, as this year unfolds. I am willing and open to notice and celebrate beauty in all realms and blessings as they are placed and to remember to be the beautiful blessing as I move through each moment.

Thank you for your presence!!!

Much peace and abundant love,

Joy

I am not offering ecourses in January. I am, however, offering personal sessions, which are available in different packages via email or Skype. I specialize in positive parenting (a child and/or your inner child), heart healing, understanding your patterns, shifting energy into a more expansive space, manifesting in a specific area, moving as peacefully as possibly through a life transition and dream-tending. For more information, please click the link.

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  1. What a timely message, Joy! Yes, I do want to give—–to friends and students and family, and I am trying to not feel resistant to the 2 feet of snow that are predicted right when my classes are scheduled to start :) So I have turned the entire thing over to God and am letting God help me to give to my students (which I badly want to do) whenever that might be able to happen. I think they will all understand the uncertain weather conditions of the winter months here in Virginia! :) And I will give them more than they pay for—-my commitment to my students! They can count on that!

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